Man's Best Friend?

Dear Samantha,

A man I dearly love just asked me to marry him. I should be excited, but he is expecting me to get rid of my dog! Schatzie and I have been together for seven years and she is my family. How could I ever get rid of her? If Schatzie were a threat, I'd understand. But Schatzie loves everyone, including him. He was bitten once by a dog and has been terrified ever since. I understand his fear of dogs, but what should I do?  - Connie

Dear Connie,

Some people who don't have pets would think this issue rather superfluous, but being a dog lover, I understand your concern. It would be worth asking him if there are other reasons he doesn't want Schatzie in your future together. For example, does he want to travel and feels the dog would limit your freedom? Perhaps he is jealous of the time and affection you give Schatzie? This would be a good time to communicate about what is important to you as you make decisions for the future.

It reminds me of the famous speech that was given at the trial of a dog, "Old Drum," in Warrensburg, Missouri back in 1855. There is, in fact, a large bronze statue of "Old Drum" in the front of the courthouse in that little town. The trial was later made into a movie. Here is part of the closing statement by Old Drum's defense attorney.

"Gentlemen of the Jury: The best friend a man has may turn against him and become his enemy. His son or daughter that he has reared with loving care may prove ungrateful. Those who are nearest and dearest to us, those whom we trust with our happiness and our good name, may become traitors. The people who do us honor when success is with us, may be the first to throw the stone of malice when failure settles its cloud upon our heads.

The one absolutely unselfish friend that man can have in this selfish world, the one that never deserts him, the one that never proves ungrateful or treacherous is his dog. A man's dog stands by him in prosperity and in poverty, in health and in sickness. He will sleep on the cold ground, where the wintry winds blow and the snow drives fiercely, if only he may be near his master's side. He will kiss the hand that has no food to offer. He guards the sleep of his pauper master, as if he were a prince. When all other friends desert, he remains. When riches take wings, and reputation falls to pieces, he is as constant in his love as the sun in its journey through the heavens.

And when the last scene of all comes, and death takes his master in its embrace ... no matter if all other friends pursue their way, there by the graveside will the noble dog be found, his head between his paws, his eyes sad, but open in alert watchfulness, faithful and true even in death."

Yes, that closing statement always tugs at my heart because it is from the actual transcript at the trial of Old Drum, in Missouri, those many years ago. I offer it to you to think about. Just be sure that this man is worth giving up the most loyal friend you will ever have. That being said, I'm sure you can find a wonderul home for her. If you do, then setter in your mind that this is YOUR choice and don't look back ... just make sure he is worth it!

Samantha Landy offers biblical advice to singles to help bring joy and significance to their lives. She is the author of ten books, including her most recent, Savvy Singles Relationship Secrets. Additionally, she hosts the radio program, Psalms of Hope. To ask Samantha questions, write her at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it or PO Box 92798, Henderson, NV 89009. For her books, visit her website at: www.samanthalandy.com.